Tuesday, October 03, 2006

I'm Back!

I’m back, I’m here, I’m legal, and I’m in the open! I feel like I could go on Oprah and leap onto her sofa!! Tom laid down some blogging rules that should be easy to live with. I can’t tell you when I have been happier. After an extremely rough time when I first told him he finally listened to me, he listened to you and while I know he still has some misgivings he is choosing to treat the whole thing with a sense of humor. My heart feel like it is filled with helium and I could just float away on joy!

After Tom read everything I had posted I could pretty much tell that he was going to let me continue. He thought much of it was funny although I could tell a few could still give me a warm rear. He wanted to know what else I had been reading so I took him to Bonnie’s site first, then Grace, Eva, Theresa, CeeCi and Elis. He agreed that they seem like nice, normal people. Then from the comments, he wanted to see Tiggr and Sky’s sites. I am not hiding anything but I told him that you guys sometimes posted pictures that might make him uncomfortable and that I would rather he not visit at this time (Tiggr and Sky I hope you understand.) He could know all he needed to know by reading your comments. I’m not sure why but he agreed. I really don’t think he wants to get mad again.

When he told me that he wanted to post something I was dumbfounded! I simple couldn’t believe it. He and I disagree about my state of mind when we met. I do not think I was in such bad shape. But who knows Tom’s memory maybe better than mine. In either case I thank God he did find me and took care of me. He is still taking care of me and I am still grateful. As I think back on events during the first few years of our marriage I guess I did give him cause to worry. I did make some very careless, downright dangerous choices sometimes. But that was so long ago. I will admit sometimes my choices these days might be foolish but I do not do anything intentionally dangerous. You would think the fear would ease after 30 years!

These are my new blogging rules, considering that I expected to never blog or possible email again I won’t be breaking any of these!

No leaving the bed in the middle of the night to blog, or touch the computer for any reason.

I had been doing this more and more when Tom was asleep because I was having trouble sleeping myself. I really don’t see how this is any different from getting up and reading or watching an old movie. But I’m not arguing.

Limit my time on line each day.

He left this open ended but I will be sure to give him no reason to complain.

Always write like a lady. One thing this means is no cursing.

Can you tell me one other blog that has as language any milder than mine?? He was annoyed about this. He said that he knew words might some times slip out when someone is upset (I get spanked when they do though!), but I had to make a conscience choice to type it. So I will try to watch it.

Absolutely no contact other than the internet!

He was adamant on this! If this rule is broken the computer goes once and for all.

I gave him one rule too. I told him that I didn’t want him reading what I wrote everyday. I want to be uninhibited in what I write on a daily basis but that I would show him the stories when I wrote them. He laughed and said I didn’t get to give him rules and he would read anything he wanted to anytime he wanted to. What a shock, but it was worth a try! He did say he didn’t plan on checking it on a daily but he would check it out when he wanted to.

Soon I will tell you exactly what happened when I told him. But for me it was miserable time so I wanted to tell you the happy ending first. I will say more about it but a special blessing to those of you that wrote letters. And an even more special thanks to Eva who started it all. There was a ton of talking between Tom and me to get to this point, but I don’t think he would have let me keep talking with out all the love and support he saw in the letter! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am so happy to be home.


frhe sjgg said...

I'm relatively new here, but Tiggr directed me to your wondeful blog about 3 weeks ago. She spoke so highly of you, as did some others I was just bgeinning to "meet' in blogging cyberspace !

I'm glad you are back, and glad Tom is okay with the Blog !
The rules seem pretty reasonable, and that is a good thing too !

I will come back to visit every day and read your stories when you post them, and comment !

Anne Elizabeth

p.s. I've got you as a link from my Blog, too!

Paul said...

It seems dear Cassie that you were right, your Tom and I are similar.
As you can tell we are all happy to see you back, your gentle words and stories have been missed.
Please tell your lucky man, lucky because he has you,that we would love him to post or comment occasionally, just as a counterpoint to your voice. That would make your blog even more interesting.
I will be interested to hear the tale of your tail, to see if it is anything close to what I might have done under the same circumstances.
Welcome back dear girl.
Warm hugs,

Theresa said...

It is funny you thought you would lose us, by being gone so long. I clicked on your link every single day....even though I knew you were going to be gone 2 weeks. I clicked today, not expecting to find anything (I assumed you would be busy unpacking). I am glad I did. I was already planning an email to tell you to Get Blogging!

I love the rules! I especially like the part where he tells you "you don't give him rules!" I also like that he laughed as he said it.

Speaking of the graphics..yikes I was looking for a penis picture yesterday....glad I did not find one!

Please follow all the rules....we don't want to lose you! And if you are looking at post today, you will see Tiggr and me both get out of bed to read and write. Heck I have been known to set the alarm for the middle of the night.

Welcome Back

sparkle said...

Hi Cassie,

I'd seen you comment on blogs before but didn't realize you had a blog of your own until Dante published his letter about you & Tom on his blog.

At that point, I didn't feel like I should jump into the chorus, but while you were away I went back and read your entire blog. And I'm really glad you're back with Tom's permission.

Good luck.

Anonymous said...

Welcome home CASSIE!!!

I'm soooooo glad you came home safe and happy.

I can't imagine how hard it was to come clean to Tom. I know I would have been so scared to have to admit something like this to Bossman. I felt sick to my stomache just thinking about how hard it was going to be for you.

You were so brave and did the right thing by fessing up.

Thank goodness everything turned out ok. I'm so happy for you. I'm so glad your able to continue your blogging journey! Welcome home girlie!


P.S. Thank goodness I didn't post my girls gone wild video. Tom might not have approved! (just joking Tom...hehehehe)

Anonymous said...


Of course I understand... my life is far from traditional and the mistakes I've made and the lessons I've learned have not been easy, or even rated PG-13 for that matter. I'm just glad that you are back... the rules are fair (not that it would ultimately matter if they weren't, of course). Tom's clearly continuing to keep you safe an protect you as best he can. But it took a huge effort for him to do what he has done and to allow it to continue. Continue to write from your heart, with a second-glance as you edit for language, he, he, and you should be fine!!

I'm so glad you're back that I'm bouncing in my chair... and my bounce hasn't even returned in full yet!

Hugs and Love,

Eva said...

Cassie~ You do not have to thank me. That letter to Tom was from my heart because I couldn't just do nothing. I knew that sooner or later he was going to find out.. how much better for it to have come from you and not from him stumbling onto your blog. And I had hoped that for him to see that we're okay and to see how very much you mean... well... again, no thanks are needed. I'm just so very happy that it has turned out as it has!! Welcome home, friend, welcome home!!


Cassie said...

Anne Elizabeth,
So kind of you to stop by. I will check out your blog as soon as I get settled by in.

Dearest Paul,
I missed you very much. I don't think Tom will be adding his voice here. But I have been wrong before so who knows.

I really missed you! Telling Tom about all this was just about the scariest thing I've done in quite a while. I'll write about it as soon as we get settled in.

My Tiggr,
You are right the rules are fair and I am really sticking to them!!

I know the letter were the turning point and I am grateful. I would never have ever thought to ask for such a kindness from you all and I don't think I would have been here without you loving idea.

I know I will be sticking to the rules. I came too close to losing it. Tom doesn't mind me having friends but he does not want me leaving his bed to visit!

Thank you for coming by. I look forward to hearing more from you.

Dante d'Amore said...

Welcome back Cassie! Tigger kept me posted while you were gone and I was beyond thrilled to hear that everything worked out well. Honesty truly is the best policy and I’m glad you will be here for others as living proof of that.

I just read Tom’s post too and laughed out loud over his closing remark about the tattoo. A very funny line!


New Beginnings said...

I always do my reading in order and you are the first place I come each day just to check to see if you have anything to say.

Tom's rules are good. Maybe we should all go by them! I can't even remember you ever cussing in your posts!

Love having you back and I am looking forward to hearing ALL about your trip!


AngelBrat said...

Cassie, I'm afraid I don't get a chance to comment much on anybody's blog (although that doesn't eman I don't love the blogger - I do well to keep up with the reading!). Anyway, I linked you a while back, and I've been reading here regularly. I'm so glad things worked out - welcome back!



Cassie said...

So good to hear from you. I don't want to make Tiggr jealous but I am always going to have a soft spot in my heart for you!

With Tom watching my every move at home and you and Paul here I will never get away with anything again!

I bet I haven't used a curse word more than 10 times, but ol' eagle eye spotted them!

Cassie said...

Thank you for you kind words. Please come by often! I will be by to see you sometime soon.


Anonymous said...


I'm delighted this all worked out for the best. Good for both of you.

So, I'm curious... What types of blog articles did you show Tom and how did he react (presumably not having seen a spanko blog before)?


Caryagal said...


I missed you!! I checked every day and re-read some of your stories. I am so very glad you told Tom. I knew you could do it. I knew you guys could talk it through and refine it in some way so you could still blog. Tom was too reasonable of a gentleman not to listen and know how important it was to you. (At least that is definitely how you described him!) As I said your love for eachother shines through so much it always makes me want to check your site dailly. It is truely uplifting. I see a lot of Tom in my own husband, though he hasn't gotten to the point of discipline spankings yet. Some day maybe :-) Welcome back. You're the best! Welcome Tom too! I hope he posts from time to time as Paul said!

Take care!


CeeCi said...

MoJo says something to me that gets me everytime. He says it's not the thing we fear, but the dread we have before it happens. The longer I keep something from him, the harder it is to tell him. Before I know it I've turned a snowflake into an avalanche!

I have an intimate reader too. MoJo reads my posts every day. At first, I wasn't too happy about it, thinking he'd correct me, or chastise me for something I'd written or chosen to share, instead he has been a quiet, but enthusiastic supporter. He praises me often. He enjoys reading comments and likes the people who take the time to visit.

Thank you for bringing Tom by my site, I was happy to see that you'd included me on the tour and I agree, we are all nice, normal people and I'd like to add happy too, now that you're back!

You'll relax before long and soon forget that Tom is reading your posts.

Now, as to blogging at night, do what Elis does...mind blog. Then hope and pray you remember what you blogged about in the morning, unfortunately Blogger hasn't installed a "Save as Draft" button in anyones noggins...yet. Hmm, maybe that will be Blogger Omega!!

**Big Hugs**
♥ CeeCi

kitten said...

Hi Cassie,
just followed your link from my dear friend Grace's site. I'll be back because I really liked what I read! Wow, it's a good thing I don't have the cursing rule on my blog, I'd be in BIG trouble. (although I don't usually think of myself as especially dirty mouthed. Maybe I need to start being more careful.) Anyway, welcome and good luck to you and Tom!

Cassie said...

We spent a lot of time on your site. Once I got him there he pretty much went where he wanted to I was there but not reading with him. He read for a long time and I didn't know what he was thinking. Finally he chuckled - and you had him!

MoJo is right! The dread was horrible, never again! Please let me know when Blogger Omega comes out!! I want that!!

Tom wants me to be a lady. In his mind that means speaking like a lady at all times. Sometimes its a bit of a struggle!

Caryagal said...

Glad to have you back Cassie. I missed you. It is so nice to check your site and know that it will be updated.