I never could resist a good meme…

1. Have you ever been searched by the cops?
That has happened a time or two – nothing to serious.

2. Do you close your eyes on roller coasters?
I am not a roller coaster fan. I will leave the riding to other.

3. When’s the last time you've been sledding?
I don’t really remember – it’s been a long time.

4. Would you rather sleep with someone else, or alone?
I hate sleeping alone. I want to sleep with Tom even when I’m mad at him. Alone is horrible!

5. Do you believe in ghosts?
I do.

6. Do you consider yourself creative?
Only when I am coming up with excuses for Tom.

7. Do you think O.J. killed his wife?
I believe that he did.

8. Jennifer Aniston or Angelina Jolie?
Yes? What about them?

9. Do you stay friends with your ex's?
My ex is dead. We would not be friends.

10. Do you know how to play poker?
Do I know how to play poker?? I was one of the best poker players you ever saw. However my gambling career was cut short…

11. Have you ever been awake for 48 hours straight?!
Many, many times

12. What's your favorite commercial?
I didn’t know I was supposed to be picking favorites.

13. What are you allergic to?
Hairbrushes

14. If you're driving in the middle of the night and no one is around do you run red lights?
Well… I suppose, I mean no! Never!

15. Do you have a secret that no one knows but you?
Of course I do! Doesn’t everyone?

16. Boston Red Sox or New York Yankees?
These are sports teams aren’t they.

17. Have you ever been Ice Skating?
I have and I am pretty good at it.

18. How often do you remember your dreams?
Pretty often, sometimes I get up during the night and write them down.

19. When was the last time you laughed so hard you cried?
I think that would have been when I played a small prank on Tom; actually it wasn’t only laughter that brought tears to my eyes!

20. Can you name 5 songs by The Beatles?
I Want to Hold Your Hand, Love me do, Yellow Submarine, Help, Imagine, Eleanor Rigby, I Saw Her Standing There… shall I go on?

21. What's the one thing on your mind now?
Is Tom going to come in and tell me to get off the computer before I get this finished?

22. Do you know who Ghetto-ass Barbie is?
I have not had the pleasure.

23. Do you always wear your seat belt?
If I was ever caught with out my seat belt I probably wouldn’t have a seat left to sit on!

24. What cell service do you use?
Alltell

25. Do you like Sushi?
It’s not my favorite but I have it occasionally.

26. Have you ever narrowly avoided a fatal accident?
On more that one occasion.

27. What do you wear to bed?
It depends. Often I sleep in the nude but if I have gotten ready for bed early and have on my gown I will sometimes leave it on. Tom prefers me sleeping in nothing unless we are away from home.

28. Been caught stealing?
Caught? No.

29. What shoe size do you have?
Why would you want to know?

30. Do you truly hate anyone?
I don’t think so. That’s a strong word.

31. Classic Rock or Rap?
I try not to sound so old but I cannot listen to Rap. Put me down for Classic Rock.

32. If you could sleep with one famous person, who would it be?
Tom

33. Favorite Song?
First Time Ever I Saw Your Face

34. Have you ever sung in front of the mirror?
I’m sure I have at one time or another.

35. What food do you find disgusting?
Snails – something about them just makes me uncomfortable.

36. Do you sing in the shower?
I’m not a singer but, again, I have.

37. Did you ever play, "I'll show you mine, if you show me yours"?
Not as a child.

38. Have you ever made fun of your friends behind their back?
No, I have many faults but that is not one of them.

39. Have you ever stood up for someone you hardly knew?
I have.

40. Have you ever been punched in the face? Yes, several time, but all that is a distance memory.

The next day

I had my first foray into parenting a few weekends back. I told you about the first part in my last post. Today I want to tell you what happened the next day.

Ryan arrived while we were eating breakfast. That boy just takes my breath away. Tall, handsome, maybe a bit too thin but he’s young – he’ll fill out. I love the way he looks at Allie! They just make such a sweet couple. I felt like the worse ogre in the word for taking the beach trip from them and I knew I would relent in a heart beat if I thought Tom would let me get away with it.

After greeting us and general small talk Ryan asked Allie what time she wanted to get started. She gave him a stricken look and said “Let’s talk on the deck.”

I looked sadly after them. Tom picked up his paper and headed toward his study. “Cassie” he said soothingly “They’ll be fine. Don’t look like that. And” he added, as I took a step toward the sun room “Give them their privacy. No eavesdropping!” Tom swatted my rear with the newspaper and left the room.

I wasn’t being nosy, not really but I did want to know what Allie as telling Ryan so I took my book to the sun room and took a seat by the open window. The shades were still pulled so I wasn’t notice by my young friends as they talked. They were in the middle of the conversation and Ryan was saying…

“But you had to know they would worry. Why didn’t you come in when they were expecting you?” Ryan sounded down right stern. I wanted to see his face but I stayed put and pretended to read my book in case I was spotted.

Allie was saying “Really Ryan I was barely late. I don’t thing that Cassie really meant it about us not being able to go to the beach. You go asked her – she loves you! You know you can get her to change her mind.”

Before I had the time to panic – because I knew I would probably give in to Ryan – I heard him answer “Allie you’re the one who stayed out too late. I’m not about to browbeat Cassie in to changing her mind. And even if I did ask her to change her mind Tom would never go for it.”

Allie’s voice got soft then and she said “Please Ryan, don’t you want to spend the day alone?”

Oh my! I had to see exactly want was going on. I turned and kneeling in the chair I barely moved the shades so I could see the children. Allie’s eyes were dreamy as she leaned in to give Ryan a kiss. As far as I could tell Ryan was a goner! But after enjoying the kiss Ryan said “I’m still not asking her – now behave yourself.”


‘Behave yourself?!’ now where did Ryan come up with that phrase? I barely had time to wonder when someone (guess who) popped me on the rear so hard you could have heard it next door! I shouted “OWWW…” much louder than I would have wanted to but Tom had surprised the devil out of me! That man can move silently when he choses.

I heard Allie say “What was that?” I stood there horrified as I heard Ryan answer “That was none of our business. Let’s go down on the dock.”

I grabbed Tom and pushed/pulled him to the kitchen. “What is the matter with you?” I fumed “They heard that! Tom have you lost your mind? What was that for anyway?” I asked as I rubbed my sore rear.

Tom as usual was completely unrepentant. “Didn’t I tell you to leave the children alone? Ladies don’t eavesdrop and besides, with your ear hanging out the window and your bottom sticking out as it was I just couldn’t resist.”

I couldn’t really think of a good defense at the moment so I decided to attack. “Tom I want to know what you have been telling Ryan – I heard him tell Allie to behave and he sounded like he knew exactly what was happening in here. I want to know just exactly what you have told that boy!”

Tom took his time making another cup of coffee before turning to me and said “What Ryan and I talk about is between the boy and me. But you can rest assured that I have not told him anything that would embarrass you.” That didn’t answer my question at all but I heard the children coming in then and Tom disappeared back into his study.

Ryan and Allie seemed to be having a nice enough day. After a late lunch Allie asked if we minded if they went on a bike ride. “No honey,” I told her “It’s a beautiful day! Enjoy yourselves.”

“Ah-hum” Tom cleared his throat “I believe you told Allie she couldn’t leave the houses with out one of us.” I swear I don’t know who Tom was trying to irritate more Allie or me! I could have fought with him but I didn’t want to waste the energy so I just turned to Ryan and said “Get my bike out! I’m going too.”

We headed out together but four houses later I stopped. Turning to the kids I said “I’m too tired for a long ride. I’m stay here to visit with Sue – don’t forget to stop for me on your way back.

“I thought Tom said you were to stay with us” Ryan said with a slight grin.

“Ryan” I said somewhat annoyed with the boy “you do have to realize that just because Tom says something it’s not the same as if it’s coming out of the burning bush! Besides” I went on “he said Allie couldn’t leave the house without one of us. She didn’t – I left with her didn’t I? And just keep your mouth shut about it to Tom – you hear me??”

I visited with Sue for a while and in due time the children came back for me and we headed home. Tom grilled out for us all and Ryan headed back to campus shortly after we ate. After he left Allie brought over her Wii. Oh my, what fun! I think Tom enjoyed watching us nearly as much as we enjoyed playing. We played fairly late but shortly after eleven we all headed to bed.

I was tired and ready for sleep but as I headed to the bed Tom spoke up – “We have a few things to discuss before bed Cassie.” Well that got my attention, after all Tom talks with his hands!”



I could tell he wasn’t mad so I asked “What did I do?”

Well first off you didn’t listen to me this morning about spying on Ryan and Allie – very rude and unladylike” he told me as he was pulling me across his lap and pulling my night gown up.

I wasn’t exactly fighting him but I did protest that he had already spanked me for that. Tom laughed, “I popped your rear! That was hardly a spanking.” He peppered my behind with moderate hard swats but he gave me plenty!

He finally stopped to rub only to start up again quite a bit harder. I was trying to squirm off his lap protesting “What that for?” I demanded.

“This” he told me with an especially hard swat “is for stopping at Sue’s when you should have stayed with the children on their bike ride.”

“You let me up!” I demanded! “How dare Ryan! He has no reason to go tattling to you!”

Tom laughed harder as he continued to swat. “Ryan didn’t say a word about it. I knew that was what you were going to do and you just confirmed it. When will you learn I can tell what you’re planning with one look? Don’t you know you can never pull something over on me.”

Tom is the most exasperating man! If I didn’t love him better than life he would be down right annoying. His administering had left me stinging and miffed at him for being a know it all. But soon I was cradled in his arms with my warm bottom pressed against him – my favorite sleeping position.

I lay safe and snug in his arms and thought about what he had said – ‘Don’t you know you can never pull something over on me?’. Did that sound like a challenge to anyone else?

Role reversals

I have a very interesting weekend the weekend before Easter. I saw some role reversals at my house that I never expected. Our neighbors, Kate and Andrew were going off on a short get away. Drew was staying with friends but Allie wanted to stay home. She is 17 but her parents were not really comfortable with that idea. We offered any assistance we could and it was decided that Allie would have her days to herself but she would spend the night at our house. Allie and I have become very close since we moved here and I was looking forward to the weekend.

Friday evening Allie came over around 9 and visited and watched TV with us. After breakfast the next morning she went back to enjoy her home all by herself. Late Saturday afternoon she came back to let us know she was going out with some friends but that she would be back at our house by midnight. At 17 that seemed reasonable to me. She told me she had the key we had given her and that I didn’t need to wait up.

Allie is as responsible as they come so I wasn’t worried. Tom and I went on to bed. I woke up about 1:00 AM and went to check that she had gotten in safely. Allie wasn’t home. I panicked! The first thing I did was call her cell; it went immediately to voice mail. I had no idea what to do. I knew several of her friends but just their names – not their phone numbers. I didn’t want to call her parents – what could they have done from 400 miles away? I woke Tom who, although he was concerned, spent his time trying to get me to calm down. I was pacing the floor and had a knot in my stomach that would not go away.

I finally stalked to the bedroom to dress; I was going to look for her myself! Tom was telling me I wasn’t going anywhere when Allie pulled into the driveway. I was headed out the door when Tom stopped me “Let her get inside, Cassie. Maybe she has a good reason for being late.” I was too wound up to realize how ridiculous that sounded coming from Tom.

Poor Allie, she has rarely seen me mad and certainly never at her but she had barely stepped in the door before I attacked.

“Young lady, I would like to know where you have been?! You told us you would be home by midnight! Do you realize it is almost 1:30?

She looked more shocked than remorseful, “I’m sorry we all just got to talking and the time got away from us.”

“Time got away from you! And why weren’t you answering your phone? Tell me that!” Oh my, I was on a tear!

“My battery died. I’m sorry Cassie, really. Please don’t tell Mom and Dad.”

“TELL MOM AND DAD!” I shouted, “Girl, your biggest worry right now better be that I know. I’m about ready to wear you out!” I have no idea where that had come from – I felt a bit like I was channeling Tom for the moment.

As I saw Allie’s eyes widen in shock I tried to rein in my temper. “Just go on to bed, we’ll talk in the morning. But you are not to leave this house with out Tom or me until you parents are home! And I don’t mean maybe!”

“But Ryan’s coming tomorrow,” she reminded me, we were going to the beach. “Mom said we could.”

“You’re not going anywhere!” I flared again. “I’ll call Ryan and tell him not to come.”

“Cassie, please don’t…” Allie began almost in tears.

Tom finally chimed in. I had been wondering why he hadn’t been ranting right beside me. “Allie you just go on to bed.” Tom said calmly, “Ryan can come but they’ll be no beach trip. You can visit with him here.”

Allie nodded quietly and went on to her room. I waited until we were in our room before I rounded on Tom. “Why didn’t you have any more to say?”

“Now Cassie, the girl didn’t rob a bank. She just came in late.” I could not believe what I was hearing! How dare he! If I had come in an hour and a half late and hadn’t answered my phone I would have been well on my way to being rump roast before I could have gotten ‘I’m sorry’ out of my mouth.

“I do not believe what I’m hearing! What if it had be me doing that?”

“Yes Cassie,” Tom admitted. “I would have been very upset and I would have warmed your bottom for sure but you are a grown woman who knows better. Allie is a child who made a mistake. There is a difference.”

I was too angry to say any more. I got in bed on my side and turned my back to Tom. I felt angrier at Tom than I did Allie at the moment. Tom, of course, was having none of it and put his arms around me. “Cassie you’re not that mad at Allie, you were scared. Now you know how I feel when you disappear on me.”

I wasn’t ready to give up my mad in exchange for guilt so I said nothing. But finally I drifted off to sleep. Waking the next morning after a fitful night I could admit to myself that Tom was right. I hated that I had shouted at Allie. I lay there wondering what she must think of me. I knew I needed to apologize to her. I love the girl and I was worried that I had done irreparable damage to our friendship.

The next morning I talked to Tom as he got ready to go run, I told him,“Tom I’m embarrassed to face Allie. I know she must hate me now. I’m going to apologize and tell her she can go to the beach with Ryan.”

“Whoa, hold it right there girl. Allie does not hate you and we are not going back on what we told her about Ryan. She made a mistake and she has to pay the consequences.” Tom stated firmly. I was really finding this all intriguing. I had always wondered how Tom and I would have been as parent, some how I had always pictured him as the one who would have been doing the shouting and me taking up for the child. Rather different from the way we had handled things the night before.

Tom and Willow left for their run and I got on up too. I found Allie already in the kitchen waiting on me. She came and gave me a hug as soon as I walked in and told me again that she was sorry. I fixed us some coffee and we sat on the deck to talk.

“Cassie,” she began, “I really wish I would have called last night when I realized I was going to be late. But it was almost midnight then and I didn’t want to wake you.”

“Honey, I shouldn’t have yelled at you that way last night but I had been so scared something had happened to you. I really don’t know where all that came from.”

Allie assured me she wasn’t mad. And we sat in silence for a few minutes. Then Allie turned to me with absolutely pleading eyes. And said “Please Cassie, let me go to the beach with Ryan today. I’ll do anything else you ask me to do but please, please let us go.”

How on earth do parents stand the pressure? I wanted to let her go so bad. She is such a sweet girl and I love Ryan too. But I took a deep breath and said “No.” Then I burst into tears! I just felt horrible. Allie didn’t look any better and Tom came in to find us both upset.

Allie had tears in her eyes as she told Tom she was afraid Ryan was going to be mad at her for messing up their day. Tom told her “Don’t worry; we men get over being mad at the women we care about pretty quickly. You’ll see.”

And when Ryan arrived about an hour later she found out Tom was right. I tell you more about their day later.

Five things I love

...about my husband.

I love the way Tom looks for me. When we are at a gathering I can slip to the side of a room and just watch Tom. Within ten or fifteen minutes he will be scanning the room for me. I love the look I get when he spots me, his smile, the light in his eyes, I know I am completely loved. Not long ago we had all four couples visiting us. I had stepped into the bedroom while Tom had gone outside. When he came in the other 8 were in the living room along with Willow ands 2 of the 3 cats. Tom scanned the crowded room and his first comment was “Where is everyone?”

I love the way he cares for me. Tom treats me like a queen. He does the cooking in the family. He pampers me often bring me breakfast in bed when he is home. He sometimes gives me luxurious baths that are just this side of heaven. One of my favorite things is when he reads to me. I love his voice, I love to be able to close my eyes and let is voice pore over me.

**I love that Tom is consistent. It doesn’t always work in my favor but I still love it. He spanked me for the first time nearly 40 years ago for cussing; if I were to say the same thing today he would up-end me and paddle me just as hard. But I always know where I stand with Tom. I know how he will react in most situations. This does make it easy to stay out of trouble – at least I suppose it would, I’ve never actually tried.

**I love that he insists that I be a lady. I certainly haven’t always liked this but when Tom first came into my life I was horrible. I bullied people; my language would have made a sailor blush, my conduct was atrocious! I was living life totally on the edge and putting myself in unbelievable danger. No one was brave enough or cared enough to even try to stop me. For some unimaginable reason Tom did care enough and he was very brave. I really like myself better as I am now.

**I love that Tom spanks me. Okay, there have certainly been times when I would have said this but as all of you out here know spanking brings couples closer together. Although I share this with you out here, it is still something private between Tom and me. It’s something that not every couple shares or would even understand. I like having this special bond with him and with only rare exception these days our spanking are definitely on the fun/erotic side.

** These are things about my husband that also annoy the heck out of me sometimes!!

Popping in with a meme

It's been forever since I did a meme. And to show you what old age does to you I have to tell you that I filled this out the several days ago and now I can't, for the life of me, remember from whom I have stolen it. So my thanks to whomever posted it originally.

1. What curse word do you use the most? – None if Tom is around and usually nothing worse that damn or hell if he’s not.

2. Do you own an ipod? – I do.

3. What person on your friends-list do you talk to the most? – I talk to Tom the most

4. What time is your alarm clock set to? – My what? Why would I need an alarm clock? I’m married!

5. Do you still remember the first person you kissed? – Yes but it’s not a fond memory.

6. Do you remember where you were on September 11th, 2001? – I was home with Tom

7. Would you rather take the picture or be in the picture? – Oh, I’d rather be in it

8. What was the last movie you watched? – Bridges of Madison County

9. Do any of your friends have children? – Many

10. Has anyone ever called you lazy? – Not to my face

11. Do you ever take medication to help you fall asleep? – Rarely

12. What CD is currently in your CD player? – A CD that my neighbor Allie made for me of her favorite songs.

13. Do you prefer regular or chocolate milk? – If I were going to just drink it, chocolate.

14. Has anyone told you a secret this week? – Yes

15. When was the last time you had Starbucks? –Last Wednesday

16. Can you whistle? – I can, Tom does not think its lady like so I tend to whistle around him to annoy him.

17. What is the first thing you notice about the opposite sex? – Their eyes

18. What are you looking forward to? – Summer, I want to talk the boat out and spend more time in and on the water.

19. Did you watch cartoons as a child? - No

20. Do you own any band t-shirts? – Any what?

21. What will you be doing in one hour? – Walking Willow

22. Is anyone in love with you? – I surely hope so.

23. What was the last song you heard? – Breathe (2 AM)

24. Last time you cried? – Not in a while

25. Desktop computer or a laptop? –Oh, laptop for sure.

26. Are you currently wanting any piercing or tattoos? – LOL! Wouldn’t do me any good to want it. It won’t happen!

27. What's the weather like? It’s been cloudy for several days.

28. Would you ever date a girl/guy covered in tattoos? – Nope, I’m married.

29. What did you do before this? – read some blogs.

30. When is the last time you slept on the floor? – The last time I slept on the floor is not something I want to remember, more than 35 years ago.

31. How many hours of sleep do you need to function? – As many as I can get!

32. Do you eat breakfast daily? – I do.

33. Are your days fast-paced? – No, most of the time they are serenely slow.

34. What did you do last night? Ate out with friends

35. Do you use sarcasm? – Sometimes, rarely with Tom. He doesn’t find it nearly as amusing as I do.

36. How old will you be turning on your next birthday? - 69

37. Are you picky about spelling and grammar? – I wouldn’t say picky.

38. Have you ever been to Six Flags? – No, I haven’t had the pleasure.

39. Do you get along better with the same sex or the opposite sex? – Hmmm… I would have to say I usually get along better with men.

40. Do you like mustard? – No

41. Do you sleep on your side? – Sometimes

42. Do you watch the news? – Unfortunately yes.

43. How did you get one of your scars? – Gallbladder surgery

44. Who was the last person to make you mad? – Well who do you think? My bossy, overbearing, over protective husband that I love to death!

Still around

I just wanted to poke my head up to let you know I was still around. And Lessa, thanks for checking in on me. I think Sue and Steve are all moved in now and seen quite settled in there new home. I still have a hard time believing that they are right here. We have lived across the country from them for the past 16 years so this is a true delight! Having a new home to decorate has kept Sue and I extremely busy. So busy in fact that the boys have threatened our lives, our access to credit cards and finally our butts if we spend one more dime on the house.

There is a true love story going on around here these days. Allie and Ryan are most definitely an item. Ryan is our guest anytime he has enough time off from college for a visit. Being surrogate parents is a new experience for us. Allie and her brother Drew are in and out of our house often but together with their parents a rule was made that when we are not home Ryan can’t invite Allie in. I hate standing in the way of true love but Tom feels strongly about not putting temptation or access to an empty house in their path.

Tom usually only works only on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, I still don’t want him working at all but I am adjusting. He goes out of town for about 3 days a month and that’s my time to break free and go wild. The only problem is that with out Tom here to catch me there seems little point. I am waiting for warm weather, I plan to get off my rear and find some way to keep Tom from being bored with me. Although Tom hasn’t really seemed to mind the relative peace lately, I can assure you that I have not become the angel he thinks I am at the moment. Keep checking back. I just had to help Sue get settled , I haven’t changed my ways, I promise!

Greetings

This blog is a fantasy. Everyone here is made up – the humorous ravings of an old spanko about an old fashion couple. This is not; I repeat NOT the place to learn about how a dd marriage works. There are a great many blogs out here that explore that topic very well and if you are interested I hope you will seek them out. This blog is a place to come for a good story and nothing more. And every southern knows you don’t let the truth get in the way of a good story!

I never wanted to stop blogging and I never ever wanted anyone to feel shut out. We old ladies (even fictitious one) always want to be good hostesses. Everyone who wants to come here and enjoy is welcomed. I may choose to continue the story; I would like to post occasionally. But don’t come here looking for knowledge or wisdom – just come for the fun of it.

Cassie

A change of focus

I have a lot I need to say today. First I want to say that I am married to the most incredible, sexy, gorgeous, intelligent man on the face of the earth. He is everything in the world to me. He talks to me; he has always talked to me. He has, by his insistence, helped me to live the last nearly 40 years as a lady – at least in public! He brought so many things into my life that had never been there before – consistency, friendship, discipline, and love. Always love. At the beginning I had no idea spanking would be so much a part of my marriage. But it has been a staple. And now I wouldn’t have it any other way. Yes of course there is still discipline but far more are just for the fun, the connection and the erotic pleasure it brings.

There is happy news, although I can imagine some of you will be shaking your heads at this. Sue and Steve have decided they are moving east. The cost of living in our area of the world is a great deal more reasonable than their area. We have also done much talking during this visit and we discussed at length that we are family to each other. Sue and Steve have no children either. Our other close friends have children and grandchildren but Sue and Steve have no more extended family than we do. Even with all the trouble Sue and I could potentially get into we are all comforted that we will all be near one another. There are several houses in our neighborhood for sale and they are already looking on line. You don’t know what this means to me. Tom is happy too, although he fully realizes our potential for getting into troub... umm, interesting situations! Now don’t worry, you know I am going to be as good as gold!

On a less happy note Tom is going to be working a bit longer than he had originally planned. I am not happy about this but it is something he wants very much. He has always given me everything I have ever wanted and now it is my turn to let him have this without excessive fussing – provided I get plenty of his attention too! I know it won’t be smooth sailing but we have talked about it at length and I agreed with his decision.

Of course this means I am going back to work too. Oh my, the corporate wife again. Not my favorite roll but one I know well. Do you see where this is going? While I am not giving up my blog you can see that I will not be here much. Just as it has been these past few weeks my time is going to be taken up with helping Sue and Steve find a house and get moved and settled, giving my lovely Willow the attention she needs and being there for Tom whenever he needs me.

I may be popping in and out but please don’t worry if I am not here often. I just wanted you all to know that I am fine and happy, just putting my energies in other directions.

I hope that those who come by will enjoy my archives (I’ll remind you that regardless of how old the post is you can comment on it and I will get it – I will try to reply too as I have time) but as you do read the old post please remember something. This blog has been my creation. Many of you have teased saying that ‘You want to be me when you grow up’. You realize, I hope, that I write looking at my life through rose colored glasses. I tell you the fun, funny parts of our lives from my point of view because I enjoy the stories and I enjoy sharing them. We are not some perfect couple and we don’t have everything right but why would I write about the negatives? When I first began writing all I ever wanted to do was share some stories here because there was certainly no where else to ever tell them. This is not a place to learn about how a DD marriage works or how it should be done. It is just a place to read about a crazy old lady’s love of life.

But there are two things I would like everyone to take away from here. First there is nothing wrong with an old fashion marriage where the husband is the guide and protector of the wife. There is nothing wrong with him being in charge. There is nothing wrong with him giving the occasional spanking to make sure his wife is fully aware of who is in charge. (And there is nothing wrong with the wife trying to get away with as much as possible!)

But the second, and most important thing, I have wanted this blog to point out is that love and passion are not the sole property of the young. Love and passion grow and change with age. But while aging bring on diminished eye sight, hearing problems, stiffness in joints and a smorgasbord of aches and pains – the love and passion between two people only grows stronger and better. Always remember that.

To all my reader – my friends and family,

I love you,

Cassie

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I’m serious – like a child, I am ‘not to leave my room’. LOL if I wasn’t so exhausted I would fight him on it or just slip out but I am too warn out to argue. Sue and Annie and I have been busy these past few weeks. Doing nothing really wrong you understand but not always being on Tom’s time line, not always answering our cells (if we were having too much fun to stop), drinking more than he things I should, spending too much money and in general running wild.

I have been enjoying my freedom I will have to admit. Tom has had to work many days and even came back east for a few days. I didn’t like that but as I said we girls have managed to keep ourselves occupied. But I said something I really shouldn’t have this morning, I didn’t mean it, and I never meant for Tom to hear me but his uncannily timing was again my undoing.

He seemed to wake in lecture mode this morning. And since he and the boys were planning to golf all day he wanted to tell me how I was to act at brunch and at a tea I was to attend this afternoon. I was still in bed, trying to ignore him (in a loving manor of course) but he was just going on about how I had been acting and how a lady should act I was getting aggravated! If there is one thing I know after 38 years of marriage is how Tom thinks a lady should act!

So as he kept talking as he walked into the bathroom I said very quietly (yet unfortunately aloud) into my pillow “Kiss my ass”. Tom heard – he had walked back into the room – and suddenly lecture mode was gone!


He grabbed up the ivory brush and lit into me before I even realized he had heard! He hasn’t spanked with the brush in a long time but absence does not make my heart grow fonder in this case! He was pretty mad and he did a thorough job before he stopped. He said – still not letting me up – “I don’t know what has gotten into you lately but I am not going to put up with it. You are not to leave this room today for any reason. You may not call or text anyone except for me and yes ma’am I’ll check!”

I couldn’t stop myself from saying “But I have a brunch and a tea today. They are expecting me.” Tom gave me another half dozen hard swats as he said “Then perhaps your friends will be disappointed just as I am. You need a day to get hold of yourself and your behavior or so help me Cassie, this will have just been a warm up.” I was on fire and in no way did I want that to be a warm up!

Tom let me up and held me as I was snubbing. I finally asked “What will I tell Sue, she is expecting me to go with her. You know she’ll come up here.”

That won’t be a problem he said dryly and he called Sue from his phone. Now Sue knows I get spanked of course but I still don’t want it advertised and I was hissing at Tom, “Just tell her I don’t feel well. Don’t tell her you won’t let me.” I might as well have been talking to the wind!



The conversation went something like this “Sue I’m afraid Cassie won’t be joining you today she is not feeling well.” I was slightly surprised that he was going along with my request when he went on “She has a raging fever when she sits. I don’t want you coming up or talking with her today or I can promise you it will be contagious!” I really was annoyed at him but couldn’t help laughing in my head. Tom is so Tom and I do love him to death!

Deep down I know he’s right I have been a little wild on this trip and part of it is that I am very tired but I just keep going anyway. Tom brought me up a picnic basket for the day with plenty of food for breakfast and lunch a thermos of coffee and the paper. But he was dead serious about me staying put. He didn’t mention the computer possibly because he didn’t know I had brought it into the room last night. He has been keeping it in the room he is using for an office and once I am a free woman I may just put it back before he notices it! But I slept for 4 hours after Tom left so I know I really was tired. And I have played on here and watched old movies all afternoon.

I expect I’ll be behaving, mostly because I can tell Tom is not going to put up with much more. I don’t want to have to leave before Thanksgiving as he has threatened. So wish me luck! And I’ll go see if I packed my halo – it must be around here somewhere.

Welcome

I want to thank every one who came by today. I will be answering my comments very soon because I want to talk to each and every one of you.

Welcome to love our lurker’s day! I guess we hope that by seeing heartfelt invitations everywhere you will take the plunge and leave a comment. My readers are very, very special to me. If you have read here often you know how much I love my husband, but Tom is my only family. Through this blog I have made amazing friends, many of whom are like family. I wish I knew everyone who has ever read one of my posts. I wish I could personally thank every one of you for taking time out of your day to read my stories. You just don’t know how proud that makes me.

And in case you didn’t realize it if you go back and read old posts you can comment on them. It comes straight to my mailbox with a link back to that post. So even if the post is several years old I will get the comment.

Whether you are a regular reader or just drop by once in a while please talk to me. I adore comments, this is where I can talk to friends I have actually made on my own. You are all special to me. If you are not comfortable leaving a comment for some reason you could email me at casscat6575@yahoo.com
Much love,
Cassie

Meme's from Carye and Daisy

My dear friend Carye who is a loyal reader and commenter sent me her meme also. I think her's is very, very interesting.

Carye

1) I played Trombone from fourth grade on and still enjoy playing. When I first went to college, I majored in music ed and elementary ed.

2) I graduated from college with a botany degree, and chemistry and math minors. I never have used any of them. I got a temp job and loved it. They sent me through for my masters in business.

3) I've managed a 250 million dollar environmental budget for the government. I prefer managing data to people and now do programming development for a software company! Some day I may figure out what I want to do when I grow up!

4) I am a weather junkie! I have a Davis Weather station in my back yard and have been a weather spotter. My husband made me stop when we had kids. something about not wanting me to be out in a car searching for tornados....

5) I was on a waiting list having been completely approved for the peace corps when i met my husband. If there had been a job open in the countries I was interested in immediately, I never would have met him.


6) I have traveled to 6 countries outside of the US. Can you guess what they are? All except one are in the western Hemisphere. I'll give you a hint on #6 -- I spent 2 weeks in the amazon jungle with a bunch of botany and zoology students when I was a botany student and loved it!

7) I am an extra class Amateur radio operator. I passed 21 word per minute moris code translation to get my licence. Me:-)


Dasiy has also been kind enough to send me here meme and I am delighted to learn more about her and to share that with all of you.

Daisy

1. I was married at 20 to my first bf, we started dating when I was 16, he proposed on our first date! I thought he was drunk!

2. I was devastated when he walked out after a 24year honeymoon, for an 18year old girl....

3. I have been a trampoline instructor for 32 years.

4. I am undertall. If I were 8'3", I would be delightfully slim.

5. I am now honoured to be engaged to the most wonderful man, who happens to be american. I never would have thought it possible to beat being proposed to on the first date; however, he proposed before we had ever met in person!!!!!! (and, yes, he is my second ever bf!!!)

6. I will become a grandparent sometime around christmas, for the first time....YAYYYYYYY

7. I have learned more about myself in the past 5 years than in the previous 45.... (for the mathematicians amongst us, yes, I was 50 this year!!! )

My brother Paul and my chicks

7 Things Meme
by Paul

As requested by my baby sister.

1) I was a stubborn child; I have been known to spend the night at the table when told not to leave before I finished what was on my plate.
I also requested the meal be sent to the starving children in Hungary , Poland or Czechoslovakia, when reminded of them if I had no appetite.

2) As a child I was frightened of Moths, while I no longer fear them, I will remove them from any room I am in, I just don’t like them, possibly for the same reason that I don’t like peaches.

3) I technically lost my virginity at twelve to a red headed fourteen-year old; I believe it was curiosity rather than passion that drove her. Fortunately for me I was unable to ejaculate, I hesitate to think what might have happened if I had been able to, in hindsight that is.

4) By the time I was fourteen I was a keen Archer, at sixteen I had made my own longbow it had a 90lb pull.

5) When Mel and I first met, Mel collected figures of Wolves and I of Owls, strange as the Owl is her symbolic animal and the wolf mine, I now have over eight hundred figures of anything from gold through clay.

6) I have been a dedicated spanko for as long as I can remember, I discovered that I was a Dom at around fourteen.

7) I have had two serious accidents in my life both motorcycle accidents, they taught me to be extra careful. I take a dim view of bad and careless driving.

Mthc

1.Married for 26 years to David..been with him for 33..he's a pretty good kinky guy..!!

2 managed the family business for 14 years.

3 Have been taking care of little ones for 16 years..am now watching over our precious god daughter.

4 David is 4 years older me.

5 Love spooky stuff ..halloween..trick or treaters.. christmas..autumn colors..snow..

6 We have 2 boys 25 and almost 17..a choc.lab..6 cats..a snake and a fish tank

7. was born and raised where i live.. which we affectionately call Mayberry.
Realistically it's a small southern democratic town in Virgina.Between Wash DC and the shenandoah valley in the foothills of the blue ridge mtns.. That's about it.. I'm seeing this Meme everywhere so i think it's already making it's rounds..

David

1. I love being kinky to my wife but I hope my dad is not looking down on us. He was Southern Baptist minister for over 35 years.

2. I have been in the office supply business for over 34 years and drive 63 miles to work and takes two hours to do it.

3.I was born in West Va. but grew up at Va. Beach Va. two blocks from the ocean on 35th street. The town we live in now has one traffic light.

4.I am a diehard Washington Redskin fan and don't talk to me about that team from Dallas.

5. I am a weather spotter for the National Weather Service and love it when we are buried in snow

6. I live for turning Mthc's butt different shades of purple.

7. There are six people in blog land I wish I could really meet and give a big hug to.

Mom you are at the top of that list.

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I thank my brother and my chicks and I will be happy to post for any of you that do not have your own site. You can email your 7 facts to me at casscat6575@yahoo.com

Cowgirl, since you asked...

The Rules-
* Link to your tagger and list these rules on your blog.
* Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog - some random, some weird.
* Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blog.
* Let them know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.




I can’t imagine what I can tell you that I haven’t already told you about myself but since Cowgirl was kind enough to tag me so I am going to give it a try.

1. I have been married twice. One was pure hell, the other has become my heaven.

2. I didn’t learn to drive until I was 25 years old.

3. I have my very own prostitution’s license (I know this is old news to long-time readers but maybe some of you are new. It you are new check out here and here before you think me too terrible!)

4. I am taking a deep breath before this one, other that a few close friends out here no one knows this – I am older than Tom by nearly two and a half years.

5. I ran away from home when I was 8 years old. I was gone about 9 or 10 hours before I came home. No one noticed I was gone.

6. Tom’s wedding gift to me was a matching ivory hair brush and comb. The comb has disappeared over the years. Why couldn’t it have been the damn brush?

7. I was not always the angelic, obedient wife that I am today. Tom once told me to wait for him in the bedroom when he was really upset about something I had done. While he was trying to cool down I climbed out the window and took off.

Enough about me I would love to hear all about

Eva
PK
CeeCi
Grace
Theresa
Carye
Paul
Mthc/David

If Paul, Carye, Mthc or David would like to just give us the 7 facts I will be happy to post for them. And yes I can count to 7 but I went over.

Healthy and happy

I’ve been away from any real writing for so long I fear I have forgotten how. I don’t know how many of you are still checking in but I wanted to let you know we are still around. We have had a bit of trouble over Tom’s working but we survive. Tom is really not gone all that much and truly I’m getting all the attention I can stand.

Willow – what can I say about this sweet baby? Actually Willow and I have a lot in common. She is a free spirit, she loves to slip off and get into things she should leave alone, she enjoys staying up all night, and every now and then she just likes to howl at the moon! She is not too bad to chew things that do not belong to her although she did manage to destroy one of Tom’s slippers. At first I was secretly happy to see it go since sometime Tom has used it for an alternate purpose but once he explained to me its mate now could be used for the alternate purpose exclusively my amusement waned. I surely hope the ivory brush doesn’t accidentally fall into Willow’s clutches and disappear!

If you are in the mood for another story I suppose I can share what has been going on here lately. Let me begin by saying all is well now!! Please remember that as you are reading.

I haven’t been too pleased with Tom working. He was gone for 5 days at first and I hated it. Since he has been home he seems to live in his study and on the phone. That’s not really true but I am used to having all his attention and I was trying not to feel neglected but I was losing the battle. One day I was feeling sad, mad, neglected and just generally upset. He had been in his study all day and finally came out around dinner time. We decided to go out to eat. And would you know it he got a call at dinner! He didn’t take it of course but told me he would have to get on a conference call once we got home.

Once we got home I got a quick kiss and the promise that he would not be long. I was fuming then but when I was still sitting alone 45 minutes later I was livid! I was simply not going to stay home alone and twiddle my thumbs. I know what I did was foolish but I was so mad my head was pounding and I just didn’t care. I took the boat and left. I did take the phone but I turned it off. If he didn’t want to talk to me at home he didn’t need to talk to me anywhere!

I just drove around for a while and finally headed to a little bar and grill on the water where we like to eat. The temperature was pleasant so I sat outside and ordered a drink. I hadn’t been there long when a waitress came and asked me if my name was Cassie and gave me a phone. Good grief, if I had my phone off it seems as though he could take a hint!

Three guesses as to what he said first. You’re right, he said “Cassie Jane I am going to wear you out!” He went on to say “You stay right there. Andrew and I will come get you I don’t want you driving the boat.” That flew all over me! I told him had gotten there by myself and when I got ready to come home I could get myself back.

I could tell he was angry but I was angrier! I said “You come if you want to but I won’t be here!” With that I hung up, quickly paid my bill and took off once again. Only by now I was so tired. I was getting cold and I wanted to go home but I was still mad. I remembered that some of our neighbor’s were on vacation so I headed to their dock and tied up. I crawled out of the boat to sit on the dock. I was exhausted and my head hurt, I suddenly felt like I was too tired to get back in the boat. I didn’t sit their long until I called Tom.

“I’m at the Davis’ will you come get me?”

Within minutes Tom and Andrew pulled up. Andrew is so good. He just asked if I was okay and then he left us alone. I must have looked somewhat pitiful because Tom gave me a hug me and whispered in my ear “Girl, you messed up.” Then he helped me into the boat. I knew what was coming I just hoped he would wait.

It only took a minute to get home. I think it was walking from the boat to the house that it gradually began dawning on me that there was something wrong, I was sick. Tom walked me to the bedroom and told me to get ready for bed while he fed Willow. But I couldn’t. I just lay down on the bed and wrapped up in the comforter.

When Tom came back he found me all curled and freezing. A quick check showed I was running a fever. Tom brought me medicine and helped me into a nightgown. Around 2:00 AM he checked my temperature again and it had gone up. He ended up taking me to the hospital. I was pretty much out of it. Tom says that the worse thing about me being sick is that I don’t talk. As much as he sometimes teases me about chattering on he hates it when I am not talking.

It turns out I had a UTI. They kept me long enough to give me some fluids and then sent us home. I slept the rest of the day and all that night. By the next morning I felt much more like myself. Tom was glad to hear I was hungry and told me he was going to fix breakfast and we would talk later.

Talk? I didn’t really want to talk.

The evening started coming back to me – taking the boat, drinking without Tom (a big no-no in his book), hanging up on him, leaving the grill when he had told me to stay…

Tom brought me my breakfast in bed and sat watching me as I ate. “You’re feeling better aren’t you honey” he asked me.

“That depends” I told him, “are you still mad at me?”

“Yes.” He stated emphatically “I am. You had no business taking the boat off at night by yourself. You deserve a good spanking and you know it.

“Tom I’m really sorry. I just don’t know what came over me that night.” I started.

“I do,” he countered “you didn’t get your way and ended up having a temper tantrum. Taking off in the boat - at night - with out a word, going to a bar and drinking by yourself, hanging up on me and running off when I told you to stay put. Oh I know what happened that night. The question is what am I going to do about it.

He does have a way of making things sound so bad! He had me squirming. He seemed so calm but if he got to scolding me he could easily get himself all worked up about it again.

“Well Cassie” Tom asked again, “How do you think I should handle this?

“I … I think we should both be grateful that nothing worse happened while I was wandering around in a fever induced haze!” He had to give me credit for trying! But this is the part you are not going to believe – it worked!! Tom started laughing and came away from the dresser (and the ivory brush) to sit with me on the bed. He must have been way more worried about me while I was so sick than I had thought.

“Girl, what am I going to do with you?”

He sat on the bed and just held me for a minute before he said. “I’m not going to spank you. I believe you knew exactly what you were doing – but the doctor did say that having a UTI could alter your thinking and judgment. But you are not getting off scott free! You are to do everything I say until I think you are well from this thing and” he added as he saw me start to grin “I will be keeping your keys for the time being and…

“Oh Tom, NO! You can’t do that!” I protested.

“Cassie Jane the keys are mine for now.” He told me sternly “If you want to fuss I can change my mind and wear you out and then keep your keys – your choice.” The man is a bully!

But honestly I knew I had dodged a bullet so I hushed. I got up and took a shower and I was surprised to find out that it just exhausted me. I took another nap and after lunch I got up and Tom and I went out and threw the ball with Willow for a while. I was tired again and so I came in and went to the computer to check on everyone. Tom said “Not right now I want you back in bed.”

“Tom I just want to check my email then I’ll lie down.”

But Tom was firm, “I need do some work myself and I want you in bed. I know if you get on that computer you will be on it for hours if I don’t come run you off. Get some sleep.”

So I went on to bed. But I couldn’t get back to sleep. I tossed and turned for a while but I just wasn’t sleepy so I got up and headed back to the computer. I knew if Tom got wrapped up in his work he would be up there for hours. But he double crossed and came back down. Now why when I am perfectly healthy he works forever leaving me all alone, but now he was back down in 20 minutes. He was not happy with me! I can’t say he wore me out but he had a pretty good sting going by the time he marched me back to the bedroom.

“Cassie Jane I just told you, you are going to mind me until you get your strength back. Do I need to tie you to the bed when I’m working?” I thought it was a nice offer but I really wasn’t up to it. LOL! But when I got back up the lap top was gone!! I had told Tom it was acting up and taking forever to get from place to place so he had taken it to Andrew to look it over for us. He told Andrew he was in no hurry to have it returned!! We have it back now but Tom is keeping it in his study. For the time being I have to go there to check emails, read my blogs and do any writing.

So all of this is what I have been up to lately. I am perfectly well now although I don’t have my full strength back I am in fine health. Willow and I are back to our walks. I still don’t have my keys back and I will probably never see the boat keys again. Tom is being stubborn about the laptop but I’ll eventually get it back if I behave myself. Sorry I am not around as much, I do miss talking to everyone. I will be here as often as I can.

Frustrated

I am getting a bit frustrated. I have been trying to write a post and put it up for several days but there is a great big obstacle in my way. Don't get me wrong, I love this obstacle dearly but you can't write a good post in 15 minute intervals. I did want to pop in and tell you that I miss you all and that I should have a post up very soon.

Much love,
Cassie

Paul

Happy Birthday sweet brother!! I want you to know I stole out of bed to write and post this because I couldn’t get to the computer any earlier today. And I was not going to let your birthday come and not tell you how special you truly are! What more could a girl ask for in a brother? You give support, comfort, and advice. You scold and tease – you are a true brother in every sense! I love you dear Paul, I hope your day is very special

I'm still here

I don’t know how much I am going to be around in the near future. I cannot get the laptop working so I guess we will have to take it in for a check up. The other computer is in Tom’s study and I really don’t like to mess with his things in there. I try to get to it at least once a day and check my email but it is not very convent.

So friends I am not ignoring your emails. We are fine and Willow is growing like a weed. I think she has doubled in size since I got her! I’ll be in touch.

My Chicks

Hey everyone I have a request to make. My dear friends, my chicks – Mthc and David could use some prayers and warm thought sent their way. David is really not feeling too well and you all know when the person you love is under the weather your worry and stress level go way up so I know Mthc could use some relief too. David will be fine because his ‘Mom’ told him to get well on the double but I would like to see him back on his feet even faster that that!!

David you listen to me now! And Mthc I know you are caring for him but you take care of yourself too! Love to you both!!

I have been an angel!

Well that is not really true but if I even get the chance to meet my big brother Paul, I do not want it to be at the business end of a tawse! So I thought he might like this title better. I haven't done anything wrong - okay there have probably been things Tom would not have approved. But most husbands wouldn't find fault. I am in one piece and my beloved is coming home tomorrow and that is all that matters!! He has warned me that he may have to leave again but he is coming to spend the weekend with me!

You really can't imagine how much I have missed him. I can't wait to be in his arms, I want to feel him, I want to look into his eyes, I want to smell his scent, I want to hear his voice, I want to hold his hand as we walk Willow, I want to have him curl around my back in the bed after other fun activities. And I want it all NOW!

Tom's gone

My husband has left me. That’s not really a joke, he gone. Tom took a job. We didn’t discuss it before hand he just took it without telling me. I have known about it for a while now but I didn’t want to believe it was true. Don’t tell me he wants to feel he is supporting his family – he has taken the position for 6 months but has refused a salary. I don’t care about that, I would care if they paid him tons, I still don’t want him working. He won’t be going off every day but there will be some trips and those long conference calls and days of him hold up in his study, working and preoccupied. I hate it!

I’ve pitch my fits, I’ve yelled, I cussed some, slammed a few doors. It got Tom’s attention but it did not get me my way. He says they need him and it’s important that he try to help out right now. I know he is telling me the truth but every time he tells me this is important I feel like he is telling me I’m not.

He flew out this morning and I don’t know how long he will be gone. He said he is going to be very busy on this trip and that I would be better off staying home. We made up before he left – I couldn’t stand having coldness between us with him away but I am hurt. I hate sleeping alone and I haven't had to for a long time. I just want my husband with me. I want retirement to mean retirement. I want to be enough for him.

Now don’t worry about me I just came on here for a small pity party. I just needed to unload. I’ll survive. I have a lot of support here in our neighborhood. My home wraps around me like a comforter and my dear Willow is wonderful company along with the cats. I have often told you that Tom’s plays dirty. This was no exception. When he first told me I was so angry and I was yelling. Tom let me yell for a few minutes and then he said quietly “You’re frightening Willow”. I had indeed; she had run from the room and was hiding in the bedroom. I imagine that snapped me back quicker than anything else he could have said. I did the rest of my yelling while she was out in her newly fenced side yard.

Hopefully Tom will be home in a few days. I am trying to be a supportive wife. Tom only lets me complain so much before he takes care of it in his own way, I hope you don’t mind me coming here to complain. Please don’t take me too seriously. I do know how much Tom loves me, that is not in doubt. I just really miss him.